To the attention of parents!

In social networks there is a dangerous game for teenagers “Blue Kit”, “Quiet house”, “Sea of whales”, “Wake Me at 4:20”, the last task in which – suicide.

The Internet kills Ukrainian teenagers. In those moments when their parents do not suspect anything, their child can copy in the social network and choose quests in so-called death groups. Hazardous game has already killed hundreds of children.

The so-called “death groups” appeared in VKontakte several years ago, but now their popularity has increased and spread to Ukraine, Kazakhstan and Kyrgyzstan.

It is known that fans of such communities call themselves whales, because animals are associated with them with freedom. These whales can fly, and this may explain why this species of mammals is one of the few, whose representatives voluntarily can save lives. Therefore, all fans of “sea whales” and “quiet houses” on the personal pages are depicted videos or drawings with whales flying. ”

If you enter the hashtag “# blue” in the social network search, then the results are shocking: a new participant is registered literally every minute. It was only during February 12 that 13,000 Ukrainian users in these groups were found.

Many of the adolescent boys and girls face very “adult problems.” Misunderstanding, the uncertainty of the future and undivided love, which at this age seems to be the only one, can also seduce an adult. Many teenagers encounter problems in life that they seem insoluble. And to the teenager, suppressed by these things come the thought that here is not as good as it can be. Then they need most of the support and love of their loved ones – not indicative and optimistic, but help in understanding themselves and the world. And polite administrators of death groups are already ready with whole albums of sad monotone music, imaginary support and understanding, and a large number of images with suppressing landscapes and words about the hopelessness.

According to police, such groups are run by experienced psychologists. Their target audience is teenagers with problems with their peers or their parents.

To join these groups, you need:

  1. Submit an application to join her and write some text on her page.

The basic principle is that a teenager is writing a couple of messages “# blue whale”, “# quiet house”, “# yavigra”, “# wake up” 420 “,” # f57 “,” # f58 “, and then with it on your social network page some curator contacts. The administrators of “death groups” select the potential victim and work professionally with him. When the child became interested and fell into the corresponding group, the curator initially asked her and gave her simple tasks, checking if she was ready to play.

     2. If the administration of the group approves the candidacy, a small psychological study of the person and his readiness for suicide will be conducted through communication in a private chat.

In order to get the first real task, you need to provide a real address, where the usual letter will come up with a task. And in the future, when the participant wants to quit, he begins to threaten knowing where he lives.

The game takes place in the form of quests, during which stages learn the person of the participant, his weak sides, motivation.

The terms of the game are communication with the chat administrators at 04:20, as well as the wearing of knives and the cutting of hands.

    3. The next message will be with the task (description of the task, and the time it is given for its execution). Each task must be completed on a photo or video. Each task is given a limited time. If the participant does not have time to execute it, he is excluded from the group.

The first task can be, for example, to draw a pen on the hand of a blue whale. And after successful performance curator suggests to draw a whale no longer a pen, but a blade.

Particularly for teens, the time at which the creators of the groups prefer to communicate with their victims – about 4:20. Pre-time and practical lack of sleep in a teenager sometimes mixes sleep and reality and actions are unrealistic. Then the attackers find the moment to tell – “Everything that happens is a dream. Get out on the roof, walk from it – and wake up.”

In total 50 tasks are given (“quests”) (in fake communities – from 13 to 50 “quests”, it depends on the administrator).

The group administrator inclines the child to the tasks (quests), and virtually all tasks involve the child causing injury or causing pain.

    4. The final task is to commit suicide, and record the moment of death on the camera online.

Penultimate stage – 50 days without sleep. You can not sleep. And at this time in adolescents the reality is mixed with sleep, the meaning and ability to think rationally is lost.

When the group’s administrator is sure that the child is ready for suicide, audio is created with music in which the child plays a leading role, and they discuss all of the problems that she has voiced to the “conductor”. The only way out of all the problems that is voiced in this “work” is to commit suicide. Before that, the child is listening to an audio recording, and takes the last step.

For 50 days, bring the child to such a state that if she is given a task – today you will jump from the 8th floor – she is ready to do it.

However, simply cuts on the hands can not do. More recently, adolescents have new inquiries. Now “quests” are “run or die”. The child must cross the road close to the approach of the car.

Videos, later, are sold on the Internet, or in Darknet.

According to one of the members of the group, when he said that he wants to finish the game – the administrator sent him a link. And when a participant came to him, the administrator sent him ai-pi address, which identified the address and even the apartment number of the participant. Following this, the threats of disclosure of correspondence, the publication of intimate photos, which were also on the lists of “tasks” of the group began to sink. And many of those who have already passed away – could do it under the guise of shame or a desire to protect their families.

You can jump off a group of deaths: you must block your page or complain about the community to the administrators of the social network. However, such cases have not yet been recorded. Why are children afraid to complain? Does not everyone know. “They calculate and kill your relatives”, – the victims say.

In this regard, parents are encouraged to pay more attention to the child’s psychological state and to avoid having children fall into such groups:

1) Check the child’s skin cover for damage and, if detected, to find out the circumstances in which they appeared. Particular attention should be paid to damage of various kind in the form of whale.

2) Check child accounts on social networks and groups that include an account. Check chat content in private chat.

3) Pay attention to the circle of communication of the child.

4) Try to take the child’s free time at the sports or cultural sections.

5) Be sure to control which photos and videos are in the baby gadgets.

6) Set the “parental control” function on all baby gadgets.

In the case of such facts do not remain indifferent, and help the children. Contact psychologists at the Center for Social Services for Families, Children and Youth, Police or just talk to children.

When a child does not have the joy of learning, when she becomes uncomfortable when she punishes herself (this is the appearance of scars), when often says “I would not be better” – these are the criteria of danger.

But how much we would not invent methods of influencing teens – to help them “wake up” – but where and how to “lead them”? And to “lead” them it is necessary at the beginning in a family. So the support should be given to the family. Suicide is ready to go the one who has no internal support. And the inner support gives attachment, a sense of proximity. The child can be disconnected from the Internet as much as possible, but if there is nothing to replace it, then the child will find another addiction.

Ideally, in the family there was a relationship of proximity that would give a sense of support, a sense of life, its place in it. To create attachment and sense of proximity you need very simple things. For example, it’s just a little longer to look at each other. It’s a bit slow, creating family rituals, asking children not only about what they “got in school”, but also about what kind of music they are interested in, showing them that we are alive and evolving. Attachment is something that can develop and build up. But this is our contribution to our feelings and our children.

The first thing parents should think about: do they have children living next to them? If along with an adult child, who is always in depression, in anxiety – do you want to get older? You need to deal with yourself and your resource. Secondly, one must give a sense of understanding that the child is not responsible for the feelings of adults. If the child is constantly responsible, that parents as if through it constantly frustrated. We often say to the child: “Do not upset me”, “Do not give bad grades, because I’m sad”. It turns out that we are constantly shifting responsibility for the child.

In addition, you must engage in building relationships in the family. For our child, our love is not obvious. It’s worth telling the child something like: “You are so important to me, I’m so sorry that I can not always give you support, but believe me: everything I do is doing for love to you. Sometimes I’m wrong, but also from love. I really believe in your potential. I believe that something awesome awaits you and us. ” You can, of course, not say word in word, but it is the parcel that should be heard from parents.

Psychologists are beating on the sound. After all, most participants who have suffered from the game, from the safe families. They had almost everything. But the children lacked the basic – parent communication.

If a child purchases a lot, satisfies all its whims, but does not satisfy the main thing – a good parent, human, loving communication – then such children in a group of risk.

Talk to the kids!

Parental love will replace them with virtual reality!